Unmasking CoCo while raising dragons

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This is my journey of self-discovery AND learning how to support my kids’. Conditions like Autism and ADHD were still very new or only applied to rich white boys when I was a kid. Health insurance was not always common nor trusted. My family is amazing and has done their very best to raise me. I am forever thankful to them all and I love them very much. We cannot change the past, we can only learn and move forward. Everyone’s journey, path, and traits are unique. I do not know a lot, but I want to learn and share in the hopes that it helps others. I am building the plane as I fly it and I am not perfect….but I always try to have fun! Please note- This space is a safe place that is open minded and does not tolerate bullying nor judgements. My reflectionso and original perceptions are not what i may feel today. Many of these posts are me processing. Also beware that this is written in my full unmasked self-mode, which may not be appropriate for work. 

This is a blog about my personal experiences as I grow and learn. I am a 40 something mom who was recently diagnosed with PTSD, ADHD, and Autism level 1. I am a domestic abuse survivor that has migraines, panic attacks, and fibromyalgia since my early 20s. I always thought there was something wrong with me, that I was too much, a horrible person, and was never good enough. I wanted a career, to be with my soulmate, and to have a family so I pushed myself despite my health issues and smaller capacity/spoons. I minimized my feelings and criticized myself excessively. As I found help for myself and my children, I learned that I am not bad- I am trying and that is what really matters. The things that I feel and see are valid- I am just neurodivergent….Now how tf do I unpack, accept, and accommodate myself?!? My gut instinct as a mom is to just focus on my kids, but just like those masks on the airplane, you have to help yourself before you can help others. Yes, it sucks, but I love my kids so much and they are worth it. So I am building an airplane while I fly it.

Everyone’s experiences and journey will be unique. My only hope is that this helps and encourages other’s to always be and love themselves.